Hector Bellerin is definitely the most stylish man in football
Scroll through the 24-year-old’s Instagram account and it becomes clear that Bellerin has a penchant for looking good.
He’s regularly posing in designer clothing and even appeared in March’s issue of British Vogue.
Bellerin admitted last year that his love for fashion came from his family.
Bellerin strutted his stuff in pink shorts and a matching snakeskin hoodie.
— 𝗔𝘆𝘀𝗵𝗮 𝗥𝗶𝗱𝘇𝘂𝗮𝗻 (@ayshardzn) June 21, 2019
He later posted on Instagram: “Don’t let them tell you, it’s not possible. Thank you to @virgilabloh & @louisvuitton for the opportunity 🙏🏼”.
The most stylish man in football?
Bellerin regularly attends London Fashion Week.
Bellerin regularly attends London Fashion Week.
For the Arsenal defender, who is currently recovering from a knee injury, dressing well is a chance to express himself.
Being in a Relationship with an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
Amy Eden, an adult child of alcoholics and long time writer and teacher on the subject, offers insight into navigating the waters of being in love with an “ACA.”
Have you heard the one about the confused man whose girlfriend of a year and a half suddenly got mad and left him? Just up and left. They’d never fought, not once. The relationship seemed perfectly fine. He’d introduced her to his friends and his whole family. They were engaged. They were going to get married. Then she split.
Haven’t heard that one? Well, I have. Time and again. Loving someone whose parents are alcoholics is challenging and often unpredictable territory.
How can anyone really know if their partner, potential husband or wife, came from an alcoholic household? It’s rarely clear. Sometimes it’s not known that someone’s parents are alcoholics — plenty of people have alcoholic parents without realizing it. Other times a person can have alcoholic parents and know it, but not understand the extent to which growing up in that environment affected them.
While the confused man stands shell shocked, we can examine his fiancee’s perspective. She met and fell for a wonderful man. He had his life together, treated her kindly, and wanted a future with her. It was love (it must be)! Everything seemed to be going well, and although she’d never had a healthy relationship modeled for her, this seemed good. She didn’t know that she was supposed to just be herself, be vulnerable, honest, and imperfect as well as expect to be loved for all that. One day after being and doing what she intuited her boyfriend expected of her, she finally broke. It was too much to continue faking a perfect self, being pleasing, affable, not having needs, or sour moods. The skills that had served her so well in childhood weren’t working. She felt imprisoned and false. She had to get out, to flee, to breathe.
For people who grow up with an alcoholic parent, getting into relationships is like getting on a fast ride with a one-way ticket. We commit to someone who’s interested in us because we’re the ever-loyal children of dysfunctional, rigid parents, and then we buckle up and enjoy (or something) the feeling of rushing along, fast, on a course to…wherever. The sensation of beginning relationships is much like being swallowed whole and re-wiring one’s self for a new identity — the identity of our new love, whatever he or she needs us to be. With that kind of beginning, it’s easier to understand the hallmark get close-pull away pattern that often gets established in relationships in which one partner grew up around addiction.
The Survivalist Approach to Childhood Works, Yet It Doesn’t Stop
Children of alcoholics are survivalists by nurture. We do quite well in crisis and seem most calm during chaos. We are not very at ease when things are calm
and ordinary because in our world calm always meant a storm was around the bend. The ability to survive an emotionally and often times physically abusive childhood environment was essential. The ability to survive required a tough exterior or a polished one (we’re often called “well-wrapped”), our armor. It required a hyper-vigilant awareness of impending danger: bad moods, yelling, or violent outbursts, all of which could strike at any time. We came to expect the unexpected and predict the unpredictable behavior or our volatile parents.
Unfortunately, we continue to live in survival mode after we leave home and set up our own lives. There’s no national agency that visits the apartments and condos of newly sprung children of alcoholics to present them with a certificate of completion. If they did, it would read: This Certifies that You Survived Childhood and Must Now Learn to Thrive in Life. The fine print would read: It’s time for a paradigm shift, so surround yourself with uplifting people, stop trying to be what you’re not, tame your true inner self, and spend the rest of your life coaxing that person out into the open and experimenting with loving yourself unconditionally.
The Characteristics of Adult Children of Alcoholics
Two important individuals in the awareness-raising of the issues adult children of alcoholics were Tony A, author of The Laundry List and founder of the original twelve-step group for adult children of alcoholics (now ACoA) and Janet Woititz, author and psychologist. Each developed a list of characteristics and common traits that children of alcoholics struggle with. Those include:
- We judge ourselves mercilessly (we considered ourselves unlovable as children)
- We don’t easily relax and have fun (chaos is more comfortable)
- We feel somehow different from other people (sensing deep down that something is wrong)
- We have a tendency to isolate (because we feel like freaks)
- We have a tendency to be afraid of authority figures (because our original ones were volatile)
- We seek approval (because our self-esteem is under-developed)
- We feel guilty about our needs and shame about our true feelings (needs and feelings were unwelcome in childhood)
- We get addicted to excitement (like a moth to the flame that is chaos)
- We react to others rather than actfrom our desires (because being our own self was risky if not deadly)
- We tend to be very serious (we’re not sure it’s okay to let our guard down)
There are more ACA traits and characteristics on Janet and Tony’s lists.
Watch out for the Trespasser Known as Transference
If your partner hasn’t yet done the work to distinguish between their past and their present, they may be subconsciously reacting to you as if you are their parent or as if current struggles are actually past struggles. This can be very confusing for both of you.
How might you know if your partner is transferring feelings from childhood onto a present-day situation, or onto you? Their reaction may be much bigger than the situation calls for, but not only that — their reaction will also have a feeling of intense or deep emotion and they won’t quickly recover from the upset. You might sense that something else is going on, something deeper or complex, given the level of hurt your partner is showing. You may feel that a great misdeed is being attributed to you, and that despite your apology and explanation, noting seems to lessen the hurt for your partner. They are stuck in the hurt.
When someone reacts to you, or your actions, based from their feelings about another person from the past, that’s known as transference. This happens when a person transfers their thoughts or feelings about one person onto another. (Transference is different from projection, which is when another person accuses you of embodying their own thoughts, feelings, or traits.) Because children of alcoholics grow up with so much unprocessed emotional trauma, it’s easy to understand why they would transfer their hurt feelings onto someone who resembles the original source of upset — they are yearning to have the reaction and process that was never allowed and was tamped down for years.
A transference dynamic can be wearing on a relationship; it puts one partner in the position of role-playing the childhood of the other partner with no knowledge of what’s going on. It means that one partner is having the other’s feelings and possibly accusations directed at them from another time and place, not based in the present situation. This makes it hard to learn the other person’s emotional landscape. Part of getting to know a partner involves coming to understand what they like and don’t, what pushes their buttons, and what brings them joy or causes them sadness. It’s hard to get an accurate reading on a partner’s emotional landscape if they are living in the past, still wrestling with old wounds.
And from the perspective of the person who grew up with emotional trauma, it’s confusing to be unable to differentiate the amount of hurt that comes from past wounds and what amount of hurt is coming from a present scenario. By relating to a partner as if they’re the ghost of our past, like a hitching post for us to tie our hurts to, we’re unsuccessfully resolving past issues as well as distorting what’s occurring in the present. This can bring anguish when what we most desire is to be truly present and participate in the relationship in an authentic and productive way.
Seeking to Understand, Resisting Fix-It Solutions
It can feel like walking on eggshells at times with someone sensitive, who has been emotionally traumatized, and who seeks approval. Tiptoe-living is an exhausting life. If your partner had childhood trauma, they have some self-healing work to do. It’s important for you to internalize the distinction between what “understanding” looks like for you and what “fixing” looks like. As a partner, you show love through listening (especially active listening) and by learning about and understanding the person you love, where they come from. That’s all. In terms of helping, fixing, and changing your partner and their resolution of a difficult past — that is not your terrain to adventure through. If your partner is ready and willing to do the work of helping and healing themselves, they’ll do it. It cannot be rushed and you cannot do that work for them.
Be sure that you understand where the line is between understanding and fixing, and remember the simple truth that to love is to listen and to understand. (The fix-it work is the work for a therapist and your loved one.) What does that leave you with? That leaves you with the responsibility of loving your partner as he or she is, for who he or she is, rather than who they will become or what you can shape them into.
When a partner has emotional work to do, it’s easy to make a habit of focusing on their issues. It’s incredibly common — many of the emails I receive from readers of my blog include exasperated pleas for helping their boyfriend or girlfriend get un-damaged. I can only tell them that when their partner is ready to do the work, they’ll do the work. It’s fine to share a book or forward a link to someone and let them know you think they’d be well-served by reading it, but the work cannot be forced and it cannot be done by proxy.
Turning your focus to your own personal work crowds-out the habitual wondering and worrying you’ve been doing about your partner’s problems.
What might you do with the newfound time you no longer spend attempting to fix your partner’s problems? Why, taking a look at yourself of course! It’s worth considering whether there is something about this person’s history that drew you in, that clicked-into some issues or emotional habits of your own that need to be understood. If you’ve been focused on your partner’s shortcomings, create a new habit around looking into your part in the relationship dynamics. Indulge in a self-inquiry and see what you might uncover about the assumptions, expectations, and perceptions you bring to the partnership.
Upholding Responsibility and Accountability in a Partnership
Each of us wants and deserves a partner who is responsible and respectful to himself, to us, and to the relationship. Regardless of what one’s background of emotional struggles are, meeting one another at the point of shared self-respect is how relationships maintain balance and thrive.
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Keto and Intermittent Fasting: A Beginner’s Guide
The ketogenic diet and intermittent fasting have more in common than you may believe. When combining the two practices, they may be able to synergistically work together toward common goals of fat loss and improved metabolic health.
Despite the differences in the diets, they have two big similarities: both increase ketone production and can also burn the body’s fat stores. In tandem they may help to expedite your weight loss goals.
But where do they fit in together? Practicers of intermittent fasting are using the technique to improve weight loss, insulin sensitivity and other health biomarkers.1 The keto diet targets many of the same goals, like helping to reshape metabolism and improve body composition.
If you’re trying to decide between one or the other, why not try both at the same time? Let’s look at some of the benefits of each, and how they can work together to encourage a healthy lifestyle.
The ketogenic diet has been around for several decades, but has gained increasing popularity over the last several years.2 While some diets encourage consumption of fewer calories, the ketogenic diet is based on low carbohydrate intake rather than focusing on calorie intake. Keto can be described as a low-carb, high-fat diet which induces production of ketones from fat, leading to a state of ketosis: the presence of ketones in the blood at greater than 0.5mM. This is much different than the traditional western high-carb diet.
Our bodies are biologically programed to run on a mix of carbohydrate and fat depending on what’s available.
Dietary carbohydrate gets taken up and used as energy via blood glucose (blood sugar), or it is stored as a molecule called glycogen in the liver. Glycogen is slowly released between meals to keep blood glucose energy levels stable. Once carbs are removed from the equation, the body eventually learns to use alternative fuel sources for energy as glycogen stores are depleted.
There are two ways to induce ketosis. The first, called endogenous ketosis, is when ketosis is triggered through diet or fasting. In this case, the body is making its own ketones, meaning the body is ketogenic. It can take days of fasting or weeks of dieting to achieve endogenous ketosis.
The ketogenic diet is often misconstrued by the masses as a high-fat diet that features bacon, butter, and oil as its main components. While you may choose to indulge in these particular types of foods, the main attribute of keto is that it requires dieters to consume little to no net carbs. If you’re on keto, you should aim for a carb intake around 50g per day—a really low amount.
The second was to induce ketosis is called exogenous ketosis. This means that ketones are introduced to the body from an external source, from ketone supplements like HVMN Ketone. This body is still in ketosis (because its blood ketone levels are elevated) but it’s not ketogenic (because the body isn’t producing its own ketones).
Increasing Ketone Levels
Several supplements exist on the market to raise blood ketones through exogenous means. The goal with these types of products is to spur a faster, deeper ketosis without the need to diet or fast.
There are medium chain triglycerides, or MCT oils, which are a special type of fat found naturally in coconut oil, palm kernel oil, and butterfat. They do not contain ketones, instead possessing a fat that’s readily converted to ketones. While there are many MCTs on the market, it’s best to find one without artificial ingredients, and one that’s low-carb (to help you maintain ketosis). HVMN MCT Oil Powder is pure C8—the world’s most ketogenic fat. It’s 100% natural with no additives, no artificial ingredients, and zero net-carbs.
Then there are ketone salts. Ketone levels rise marginally after using salts, from about 0.6mM – 1mm.3,4 And often, a high mineral intake is necessary to raise ketone levels, leading to GI issues and concern around the safety of long term high salt intake.
Finally, there are exogenous ketone esters. HVMN Ketone is the world’s first exogenous ketone ester drink, and can raise blood ketone levels up to 3mM – 6mM.3,5,6,7 It’s used by professional athletes, the US military and was even used to break a cycling world record.
The choice between relying on exogenous or endogenous ketosis depends on your health and performance goals.
- Improved mental focus10
- Better satiation11
- Ability to control diabetes12
- Better cholesterol readings13
Interestingly, the body and brain can both use ketones as energy (like glucose). That’s why there are subjective reports of increased focus and less brain fog from keto dieters and people using exogenous ketones.
These are also some of the subjective feelings reported by intermittent fasters, likely due to the increased ketone levels from carb-depletion.
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Intermittent fasting is exactly what it sounds like: not eating for a certain period of time. On the surface, cutting out meals for a set period of time seems beautifully simple. But new research is advancing our knowledge of the best timing for meals and the helpful changes to our biology that occur during fasting.
Science Behind Intermittent Fasting
When you consume carbohydrates, the pancreas begins to release insulin-triggering carb uptake and storage.
Virtually every meal we eat triggers a metabolic response in our body.
Carbohydrates in our food (and to a lesser extent, protein) trigger the release of the hormone. The insulin in turn tells the body to store any excess energy as glycogen or as fat for later use. Some of the fat is stored in the liver, but most of it becomes fat deposits in the body. Insulin also switches off the processes that release fat from fat deposits, meaning that fat is going into storage and not used as fuel.
When you practice intermittent fasting on the other hand, energy intake is lower, insulin levels begin to fall and fat burning increases.
By increasing the amount of time the body is in a fasted state, there will be more time to for the body to tap into stored energy. Across evolution, most species would regularly enter a fasted state. Predators tend to eat larger portions at one given time and may not consume food for several days. There is nothing wrong with occasionally fasting for longer periods of time and it actually has several health benefits (but of course, consult your doctor before doing this).
Simply put, restricting the amount of calories you consume will put the body into a fasted state.
There is a common belief that skipping a meal is bad for your metabolism or overall health. Truth is, we’re seeing more data support the idea of restricted eating. The three-meals-a-day convention has been standard in American diets for decades. But obesity has increased. Diabetes and pre-diabetes have also increased.
Obviously, something isn’t working.
In studies performed on animals,14 those in a fasted state had longer lifespans compared to those that did not fast. It seems the benefits of fasting can not only be seen short term, but over the course of a lifetime as well.
An interesting diet that mimics fasting is called the Prolon Diet. The idea is to really decrease insulin release while still providing nutrients. It’s a low-protein, low-carbohydrate, high-fat diet with calorie intake ranging from 770 – 1,100 calories per day. Studies have shown a fast-mimicking diet can improve biomarkers for aging, diabetes and cardiovascular disease.15,16
Advantages of Intermittent Fasting
Besides benefits for body composition or weight loss, there are a number of advantages that accompany intermittent fasting.
- Easier to manage than traditional dieting: Preparing a single (or a couple, depending on your feeding window) meals per day is logistically easier than preparing several meals from a time management standpoint. Plus, intermittent fasting saves you the headache of rigorous meal prepping, or finding foods that comply with a specific diet
- Decrease in fat mass: Individuals who practiced intermittent fasting showed a decrease in fat mass while maintaining muscle mass and strength15
- Longevity: Studies have shown that populations who fast on a regular basis can appear to have increased longevity.17 A study was performed on rats that ate only once per day and it found that compared to other groups, those rats had a longer lifespan regardless of the amount of food consumed17,18
- Improved health and metabolism: Metabolic health may be improved with fasting by way of circadian biology, the gut microbiome, and modifiable lifestyle behaviors, such as sleep. Research has shown that intermittent fasting may help improve blood lipids, glycemic control, control insulin levels, decrease blood pressure, and decrease inflammation19,20
- Boost brain health: Fasting robustly is a strong trigger for neurogenesis and beta-hydroxybutyrate (or BHB, one of the three ketone bodies), which can trigger the release of brain growth factors21
- Speed up endurance adaptation: Fasting promotes pathways involved in fat metabolism, which may help endurance performance—for example, growth of new mitochondria
- Reduced risk of diabetes: Through intermittent fasting, reduced insulin resistance can help those with type 2 diabetes lower blood glucose levels and improve blood sugar. Intermittent fasting can also decrease inflammation
Practical Application of Intermittent Fasting
Intermittent fasting has been a cultural pillar here at HVMN. Employees regularly participate in intermittent fasting, and have cited more productivity as one of its benefits, along with the absence of daily slumps associated with spikes in insulin from eating carbs. But it’s not just employees at HVMN who fast—it’s an ancient tradition with many variances in schedules.
Unlike many other diets, intermittent fasting deals not with what you eat, but rather when you eat.
This dietary convention is all about timing rather than eating certain varieties of food. When you choose to partake in intermittent fasting, you are eating within a certain window of time. By forcing the body to stay in a fasted state for a longer period of time, the body will turn to fat stores to use for energy (since it doesn’t have carbs).
The body stores way more fat than carbohydrates, and will eventually learn to tap into those fat stores for energy. Simply choosing to eat in certain windows of time can have a positive long term effect on your body composition and overall health.22 Your body fat can decrease as well.
There are different variations of intermittent fasting, so it is not a one size fits all type of practice.
The most common method of intermittent fasting is choosing a certain times for food intake (sometimes called “feeding hours”).
You may choose to eat over a four, six, or eight-hour window. This means you only eat during this particular timeframe and the remaining hours of the day are spent fasting.
Some people fast for 16-hour periods, eating only between the hours of 12pm – 8pm, and not eating outside of that timeframe. Some do a 24-hour fast every week. Some of the most dedicated intermittent fasters will do a 36-hour fast every week. Employees at HVMN even did a seven-day fast.
Here are a couple ways to work eating windows and fasting windows into your normal eating schedule:
- Four-hour window: First meal of the day at 3:00pm and the last meal of the day is consumed by 7:00pm
- Six-hour window: First meal of the day at 2:00pm and the last meal of the day is eaten by 8:00pm
- Eight-hour window: First meal of the day is at 12:00pm and the last meal is enjoyed by 8:00pm
Some people may take their fasts a step further and may choose to only eat once per day. This becomes a 24-hour (or near 24-hour) fast. You should use your sleeping hours to your advantage, almost like free fasting time (unless you’re sleep-eating). A common way to do this is to consume your last meal at 8pm, then wait to eat until 8pm the following day. Often, this is referred to as one-meal-a-day or OMAD fasting.
Regardless of the eating window, the total caloric intake for the day should remain the same.
Some may argue that there are advantages to having a longer period of fasting, but your choice of eating window is entirely up to you. The best fasting protocol is the one that you stick to. Find a way to work this into your everyday schedule for the best, most consistent results.
It’s supremely important to stay hydrated while you fast. Though, some fasters consume only water during both shorter and longer fasts. Another popular beverage choice during a fast is black coffee, but this can be seen as a crutch because it reduces appetite.
Alternate day fasting (ADF) is a form of intermittent fasting, but takes a bit more of an extreme approach: no food for 24 hours every other day. However, alternate schedules allow for 500 calories to be consumed on fasting days, which have shown to be easier to stick with.23,24,25
No matter the protocol, ADF diets have shown positive results for weight loss.26Interestingly, studies in animals showed that ADF may modulate risk factors for chronic disease, and can help retain muscle mass in humans (something of a concern with fasting).27,28
Longer water fasts can last anywhere from 36 hours to several days.
Studies in both animals and humans have suggested water fasts can have health benefits.
Bringing Keto and Intermittent Fasting Together
The ketogenic diet and intermittent fasting tap into similar metabolic pathways and so they should be able to work together synergistically
The obvious juxtaposition: keto is a form of long-term dieting with a specific macronutrient target, that therefore restricts what types of foods you eat. Intermittent fasting occurs in the short term and restricts only when you can eat—with no macro-rules in the eating windows.
However, as explored earlier with low-protein, high-fat, low-carb diets, focusing on keto during the eating windows may prolong the helpful metabolic pathways invoked by fasting. An interesting application is Peter Attia’s “Nothingburger,” in which he conducted a week long fast between two weeks of nutritional ketosis.
Both dieting methods can work toward the same goal: use fat stores for energy and put the body in a state of ketosis. Both deplete the body of glucose. If you’re intermittent fasting, it may be able to put you into a state of ketosis more quickly than dieting alone.
Very few studies look at keto and intermittent fasting together. However, as our understanding of the biology supporting both deepens, we can see clear synergies; this illustrates the two together can be a good combination.
Starting a Keto and Intermittent Fasting Hybrid Diet
Although starting a hybrid type of diet sounds complicated, it can be simplified very easily. Here’s a look at what a single day might look like if you’re on keto and intermittent fasting. Follow these steps for an example keto meal plan that could be employed while intermittent fasting.
6:00am: Wake up, drink water and/or black coffee.
9:00am: Drink another cup of coffee if you’re feeling especially hungry or low on energy.
12:00pm: Begin eating window with eight ounces of chicken breast and a salad with olive oil dressing and feta cheese. Other lunch additions include hard boiled eggs, salmon, and avocado.
3:00pm: Snack on a handful of almonds and some blueberries.
6:00pm: Eat eight ounces of fish accompanied by vegetables like Brussels sprouts, string beans or asparagus.
8:00pm: Blueberries or nuts as dessert, for the final food consumed of the day.
If you’re considering a week of intermittent fasting interspersed with your keto diet, here’s what that week might look like.
Monday: Feeding hours between noon – 8pm. If you exercise on Mondays, try a midday workout when you’re fully fueled. Enjoy your last meal at 8pm. Keto meals might include a smoked salmon and avocado plate, or a steak and sweet potato dinner.
Tuesday: Fasting day. No calories consumed until 8pm.
Wednesday: Try a fasted workout in the morning. Begin eating at noon—you’ll probably be hungry. Reward yourself with a big chicken BLT salad for lunch and cheese omelette for dinner.
Thursday: No workouts, no all-day fasting. Since energy requirements are less on these days, begin eating at noon and try a turkey, cheese and avocado wrap for lunch, then salmon and asparagus for dinner.
Friday: Maybe the fasted workout didn’t go your way. Today, try a workout later in the day, planning your last 8pm meal as one high in protein. Try roasted chicken paired with creamy broccoli.
Saturday and Sunday: Here is another opportunity to try an extended fast, if you’re feeling up for it. But if you’re working out, ensure to properly fuel until you fully become fat-adapted. Maybe a nice long run outside is an option here. And use Sundays to meal prep, making the rest of the week easier!
This is an extremely simplified version, but starting this style of diet does not have to be complicated. Eat keto-friendly foods in a predetermined window. In this case the standard eight-hour eating window was followed, however, you may choose to follow a shorter eating window if so desired.
Tying it All Together
Keto dieting and intermittent fasting can go hand-in-hand when done correctly. Both should encourage the body to enter a state of endogenous ketosis, and hopefully, boost the results.
But remember—this is a process. It’ll take a bit of time to find out the best schedule that fits your lifestyle. Don’t be afraid to experiment and adapt. The best diet plan is the one that you’re able to stick to.
Have you tried intermittent fasting combined with keto? Share your experience in the comments.
The above article was taken from the HMVN website
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Responsible Pet Ownership
What is Responsible Pet Ownership?
Before owning a pet, one should be responsible to provide sustenance. One should be responsible (timewise, financially and emotionally). Before owning a pet the parent must consider many factors check out PAWS STATEMENT OF POLICIES ON COMPANION ANIMALS.
Common Problems that Pet encounters:
- Lack of time of their owners
There are many reasons as to why pet owners don’t have much time. It might be due to socio-economic factors giving them limited financial resources. That is why most of them need to cut their personal time and shift it to their working hours. It is very important to have time for your pet because even if they are smart most of them especially dogs have the intelligence of a toddler (you may also check: psychologytoday.com). Before owning a pet, you must always consider if you can manage your time and if you can budget it for taking good care of your pet.
Their owner doesn’t have enough budget
You must have enough budget to have a pet. Some might have a pet as a companion given budget constraints, however, as a responsible owner avoid inconveniencing your pet due to this factor. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to have a lavish meal for your pet but it should be nutritionally enough to sustain their daily lives.
- The owner is not ready emotionally
There might be too many reasons to list down as to why the owner might be not ready emotionally. Before you own a pet, you must also look into your self if you are ready emotionally. Your emotions might impact on how you will take good care of your pet. There might be some instances that their owners physically abuses their pet leading to more aggressive pet. Some who are not emotionally ready caged or leashed their pet. Do not keep them on a leash or cage 24/7 because this will also impact the way on how your pet controls their emotions.
- Not enough space
Before you own a pet, where do you exactly place it? Do you have enough space? responsible pet ownership means that you shouldn’t neglect your pet and let them wander around the neighborhood. Do not let your pet poop and pee on the streets. Avoid inconveniencing your neighbors.
5. Improper health preparation
Some pet owners skip vaccination for their pets. Once you own a pet. Always make sure to vaccinate them especially for rabies. We really can’t tell when they will be aggressive or defend themselves from other humans.
My Two Cents
It is alright to own a pet as a companion however, always remember that it is like adding another member of the family. It is a commitment that could last the lifetime of your pet, that is why it is fair enough to give them the best care possible in exchange of the affection and loyalty that they will give to you.
8 Romantic Ideas for Your First Date
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Dating doesn’t have to be a nerve-wracking, scary and a bad experience. Going on a first date with your special one should be romantic, exciting and fun.
One of the biggest mistake individuals often make is choosing the wrong place or activity for the first date which puts them off for a really long time. Going out for movies is a brilliant example of a bad first date. Yes, it makes things less awkward but does it have any scope of getting to know each other? Isn’t a first date all about getting to know each other?
Individuals often have misconceptions about going on dates. Real-life dates are nothing like that we see in movies and love at first sight rarely happens which leaves communication as the only way of getting to know if you truly like someone.
We’ve put together 8 thoughtful ideas for you so that you can get the most out of your first date and have a blast!
While planning a picnic requires some prepping up, it is worth it because it is incredibly sweet and romantic. Doesn’t sitting in a lush green garden on a sunny day with your crush sound nice?
Not only is this idea great for getting to know the other person but also doesn’t cost you an arm and a leg. You can throw in some sandwiches, flowers, a blanket, a few bottles of water and you’re good to go.
You can plan this picnic with your partner or surprise them – it’s all up to you. If you are planning it with them, make sure you invite them to go shopping for the essentials before you hit the park. This way, you’ll make it more personalized and brush off the awkwardness by the time you roll out the blanket.
A picnic is a total win-win as it is an utterly romantic gesture with scope for a lot of fun. Don’t fret if the weather isn’t on your side that day – make some space in your living room, throw in some cushions and romantic music and you’re guaranteed to have a fantastic time together.
2. Theme Park
It’s a pretty good idea to go to a theme park if you want to do something fun and light for your first date. It’s casual, romantic, and oh-so-kiddish – what more could you ask for?
Majority of rides (like the giant wheel or roller coasters) offer seating options limited for two people. It offers close physical contact combined with the thrill of the ride which will get your adrenaline pumping and hearts beating against your rib cages. Plus hey, holding hands when you’re scared is an excellent way to connect with your partner.
It’s a perfect date idea for adrenaline junkies. Visiting a theme park is an all-day activity which means you get plenty of time to get to know your date and vice versa. However before you plan it out, just make sure your date isn’t scared of roller coasters or suffers from motion sickness.
3. Cook together
Now, before you roll your eyes at me, you don’t have to whip up a storm. Choose a simple recipe that you can easily make without stressing too much. Cooking with your date can be really bonding because when you’re cooking something, both of you work as a team.
For example, you can chop while your date takes care of the pots and pans. Eating something that is created by both of you is bound to bring you closer. Cooking is not only therapeutic and gives a sense of accomplishment, but is also Super-casual, intimate and fun.
And even if everything goes wrong and you end up burning a dish or two, it will make a fantastic memory for both of you to laugh on!
4. Go for a drive or a walk
You can never go wrong with a romantic walk or a long drive. It’s a simple yet brilliant idea as it allows your date to completely focus on you and vice versa. You can relax while you have an interesting conversation or just enjoy each other’s company in silence.
5. Step into a bar
Stepping into a bar is a preferred by most men and women and it’s a preferable place for a date because it actually works. Soft lights and good music are not only relaxing but also help you unwind after a long day. Plus, you can calm your jittery nerves with a drink or two. You can also your luck at the pool table or gamble together at slot machines.
Please keep in mind to drink in limits and not puke all over the place. It might be your date’s first date ever, so don’t make it a scary one.
6. Watch movies at home
If you really want to watch a movie then swap the theatre for a more intimate option: your house. Keep the popcorn coming and the conversation flowing because unlike theatres you don’t have to follow any social etiquettes. You can also curl up in a blanket if you wish to while laughing (or screaming if it’s The Nun) and make fun of each other.
Brownie points for letting your girl pick a movie and watching a chick flick. Come on, watching her get emotional and leaning in for support is undoubtedly romantic. *And hot*
7. Go to the zoo
If both of you are fond of animals then visiting an aquarium or a zoo can be really fun. Let the child inside you feel alive as you feed cute baby penguins and gawk at hippos while chatting and laughing with your date.
8. Opt for the classic dinner date
If you can’t cook, step out for a meal. Search for a cozy fine dining restaurant and make reservations well in advance and inform them it’s your first date – they’ll probably make some special arrangements for you.
No matter what you choose to do and where you choose to go, you must prep well and make sure it’s not just you who’s having a good time. Be considerate and be at your best behavior.
How Baller Are You?
. You pregame your lunch with your crew by:
A. Stuffing your tote with your last ration of week-old pizzas.
B. Taking everyone’s order and asking them to pay up first so you can have a sangria without worrying about the check breakdown.
C. Booking the ₹50,000 party room. You need extra space to sabre your magnum bottle of Dom Perignon.
2. While twerking and rinding a la RiRi, your fave pair of jeans rips down the crack. Repair plan?
A. Crowdfund safety pins and boob tape. You’re a Project Runway junkie.
B. Tag the brand’s account in a stream of enraged Tweets until the grant you a refund.
C. Send an Uber for your personal seamstress, stat.
3. Time to go in with your siblings on mom’s prezzie. You decide on:
A. Homemade coupons pledging time spent in line with her for breakfast at McDonald’s!
B. A half-price YSL wallet. You’ll cover it only if they pay their shares by EOD…or they risk raking up the interest.
C. A Lamborghini with monogrammed headrests and a Swarovski-studded wheel. #PimpMomsRide.
4. Friday’s forecast predicts super-level temps, so you:
A. Scale the side of a hotel with a bedsheet ladder to sneak into the rooftop pool.
B. Call the electric company every five minutes until your bill hits the roof, then cut the AC and resort to hand fans.
C. Book a first-class flight to Norway and put yourself up in a chic, nice hotel.
5. The last roll of TP just ran out. Who’s buying?
A. No one. You’ve been smuggling it from office all this time with total ease!
B. Your roomie. You bought it last time…and made a spreadsheet for sh*t like this.
C. Toilet paper? Ha! You only use derm-approved, vitamin-coated toiletry tissues!
Mostly As: Pinching Pennies
You cherish every money note, and won’t even dish out a single for a small fry. It’s savvy to save, but being too budget-obsessed will drive everyone cray.
Set up a small ‘Fun Fund’ – you’ll never notice the difference in cash flow, and when it’s time to indulge, you won’t miss out.
Mostly Bs: Spending Smart
You know where to save and where to spend, but get hung up on every little IOU. making your friends pony up every time you get the check could paint you as more of a bank than a buddy.
Instead of demanding an instant refund, have some chill and trust that they’ll cover you next time.
Mostly Cs: Making It Rain
Can you say Champagne taste? You love to treat yo’self even when your bank account needs love. While acting a kween and living a lavish life is #Rich, it’s not reality.
Trey mapping out your money: pick a few crucial things to splurge on, and dial back on everything else.
Individuals in conservative societies are often isolated and bullied and these individuals face prejudice all their lives.
Individuals with tattoos, more specifically with skulls and roses were earlier associated with ‘rebels’ or ‘thugs’, but in the recent years, this negative ideology has changed and now more and more individuals are interested in getting a tattoo.
Today, modern society has learned to accept individuals with tattoos wholeheartedly. Tattoos are no longer associated with a negative image, instead is seen as a form of art and a way of expressing oneself.
Both the sexes are now actively getting tattoos and are no longer worried about rude and harsh comments since society has now changed for the better.
But Why Should I Get a Lion Tattoo?
Because lion symbolizes strength. Lions have always been associated with power and strength. Apart from being majestic they are also proud and refuse to be tamed.
Their shiny golden manes have an aura of royalty and intimidate all other creatures and therefore rule the jungle. And this is precisely why a lion tattoo is an ideal choice for individuals today.
Lions have a number of traits that are similar to that of an individual – dominance, pride, hunger for power, intelligence, strength, authority and wisdom- and is therefore compared to humans. Every human may see a lion tattoo differently and interpret it in their own way.
However, one common symbolic meaning of a lion tattoo is that if you have it, people automatically look at you with more respect and admiration. There’s something about lion tattoos that make people feel like you are in charge.
The best part about getting a lion tattoo is that not only is it extremely versatile but it has endless creative possibilities. From black and grey to lively and colorful, a lion tattoo is guaranteed to look great (until of course, your tattoo artist decides to mess it up).
Popular Types of Lion Tattoos
While some individuals prefer to go with a full-body look lion tattoo, others opt for the lion’s face. Here are a few popular lion tattoos:
A full-body lion tattoo generally has a lion standing/sitting proudly and screams masculinity. A lion tattoo of this type would look great when the area of skin is large as it allows more scope and space for detailing.
Therefore, getting lion tattoos on chest, biceps or back is a wise choice.
Lion Face/Head tattoo
Individuals generally opt for a large lion tattoo that emphasizes on the face or head of a lion. It is a great representation of fierce power, perseverance, and strength.
This type of lion tattoo simply represents that you have the power and perseverance to win against all odds.
Mostly preferred by the fairer sex, the lioness signifies motherhood, family, and protection. It is an ideal choice for women who appear fierce from the outside but are tender and loving from the inside-exactly like a lioness.
Men and women who sport this type of lion tattoo are believed to have the capability of sparing themselves from any harm or danger.
It is a unique lion tattoo that carries a religious and spiritual meaning. Closely associated with a crown, it shows that the individual having it is worthy of love and most of all, utmost respect.
This type of lion tattoo also promotes acceptance of beliefs of other people and their culture.
Ideal Placement of a Lion Tattoo
A lion tattoo is highly customizable and therefore can be of any size and have any amount of details depending on what you like.
Since tattoos are once-in-a-lifetime kind of decision, I suggest you pay close attention to the placement.
Placement depends on the size of the tattoo you choose.
For instance, if you decide to get a lion tattoo that is of say 10 or 12 inches in length and about 5 or 6 inches in width, then the best choice would be to get it on your chest or on your back.
But, if you choose to get a smaller tattoo then it can easily be placed anywhere on the body- from your collarbone to your ankle and give a cute but sexy vibe. Add some color to make it more noticeable (read #instagramworthy).
However, one exclusive and rarely talked about space for a lion tattoo is your thigh.
It’s exclusive and adds a unique charm to it because not everyone has the privilege to see it- unless you decide to prance around in hot-pants for the rest of your life.
Only your loved one can see it and isn’t that really special?
And for all those of you who want to keep it low-prof, here are a few *clever* hidden spots to get a lion tattoo:
- Bottom of your feet
- The side of your feet
- On/behind your ear
- Between your fingers
- Inner Lip
- Deep on the ankle
- Under your armpit
- Inner bicep
How to Prep for a Lion Tattoo
A lion tattoo isn’t for the faint-hearted. And therefore prepping right should be your number one priority.
A tattoo defines you as a person and that’s enough reason to choose a design you can truly relate to. One that makes you say “this is so me!” out loud.
Search the internet, take suggestions from friends and family, ask your tattoo artist but before all that sit-down and design a rough tattoo.
And if you are god-awful at drawing then just list out the elements you’d like in your tattoo and be as descriptive as possible.
Doing this will not just help you visualize what you want but also reduce the risk of getting something you regret for the rest of your life.
Here are some prepping tips:
Do your research
It’s a recipe for disaster if you’re planning to waltz into a tattoo parlor and hoping to get the tattoo of your life.
That never happens in real life because a good tattoo requires a decent amount of research.
Read reviews, ask around, meet people who got their tattoos from the same parlor you’ve narrowed down, visit the parlor and see for yourself- check for colors, equipment, the experience of the artist, their working style, level of creativity, etc.
If everything seems fine and satisfies you, then, only then finalize the tattoo parlor/artist.
Find a trustable tattoo artist
Tattoo artists are like doctors- their tiny mistake is enough to mess up your life. So, find a tattoo artist who understands you and you can trust.
And when you do, take their advice rather than ignoring it simply because they know better.
Consider their suggestions on color, size, design, and placement. Don’t be afraid to ask questions but don’t piss your artist either. G
et the tattoo you want but also prepare yourself to compromise a little.
Refrain from price haggling
Simple advice? Don’t do it. Tattoo parlors aren’t the same as vegetable markets so don’t insult them by bargaining for petty amounts.
Yes, tattoos are expensive and don’t wish for something that doesn’t fit in your budget. It’s really that simple.
Don’t walk into a tattoo parlor with a Dior handbag and ask for a discount.
If you can afford expensive clothes and shoes, you can definitely spend a small fortune on something that will there with you for the rest of your (long) life.
Follow the safety precautions
Like keeping in mind that the tattoo parlor/artist meet the basic hygiene and safety standards.
Keep your skin hydrated, moisturized and take good care of it during the healing period.
Take the safety advice of your tattoo artist very seriously as tattoos can easily catch infections which might get you in A LOT of trouble.
Understand the risks associated with it
Tattoos, in general, are a risky affair because they can give you skin infections, or cause allergic reactions or some other skin related problems or in some cases disease.
Estimated Service Price and Cost of a Lion Tattoo
A lion tattoo will burn a hole in your pocket. A lion tattoo is more complex than say, writing your name or drawing geometrical shapes.
Usually, a lion tattoo starts between $100 to $150 and varies on size, design, colors, details, and placement.
While some tattoo parlors will charge you less for the same tattoo, they will be doing so by compromising on the ink or equipment, etc. Don’t risk it for a petty amount.
Celebrities With a Lion Tattoo
Lions not only symbolize strength and courage, but they also represent the astrological symbol for Leo. Leos are individuals who are born between 23rd July and 22nd August.
From Rumer Willis to Demi, I’ve rounded up all the celebrities with a lion tattoo to give you the courage you need to get one too:
Singer of one of the most popular song “baby” has a lot of tattoos on his chest but the crowned lion’s face stands out amongst others.
Admire the tattoo (and also the perfectly chiseled body while you’re at it).
Willis got a classic lion tattoo in the name of her astrological sign on her bicep.
What is it with singers and chest tattoos? Really? Ed has a beautiful lion tattoo that according to him signifies dual meaning in his life.
Demi recently added a lion tattoo to her collection of tattoos. She has a black and white lion’s face on the back of her hand.
Google it already!
It is evident from Cara’s IG feed that she loves lions and it didn’t come as a surprise when she got a lion tattoo on her index finger.
If you really want to slay a lion tattoo, then learn from Mena who has been slaying it since 2010. She has a large lion tattoo on the back of her neck with “word, sound, power” written below it.
What is True Love? Signs and Characteristics of True Love
Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a state of mind.
Relationships are wild. And exciting. Love fills your heart and soul with a warm, fuzzy feeling. To find true love and be loved in return is one of the happiest moments of an individual’s life.
However, not all relationships end up in a happy love story and in most cases, that happens because you refuse to let go, hoping things will automatically fall into place.
Snap out of it, because it’s not happening. Sacrifice, hard work, commitment, trust, and respect are some building blocks of true love.
You know you’ve found true love if you find yourself nodding in agreement with most of these signs:
1. You don’t have secrets
True love has no room for secrets. Both the partners are at ease about sharing anything and everything with each other.
You trust your partner enough to know that he/she won’t judge you for anything that happens in your life – good or bad.
You know you’ve found true love when you can confide in someone without the fear of being judged.
2. You don’t play games
Individuals only play games when they are either in a state of lust or are really selfish. True love is about keeping the needs of your partner before yours.
3. You respect each other
You never lose respect for someone you truly love no matter how nasty your last fight was.
You still treat them with respect and continue to focus on their good qualities rather than the bad.
If you see your partner as a superior or inferior to you, don’t label it as true love because it’s not.
Don’t expect to be respected if you continue to disrespect your partner; you only get what you give.
4. YOU CARE ABOUT THEM
You think before you act; you care about their feelings more than you do about yours.
You support your partner during their tough times, instead of stressing them out, you encourage them and try to keep them happy.
5. You look beyond their flaws
No one’s perfect and if you can accept your partner as is, then you’ve found true love.
6. You show kindness
You are generous, friendly and considerate when it comes to true love. You never want to hurt them and feel horrible if you do.
You are genuinely concerned about them and don’t feel vulnerable to express your concerns.
7. You work towards improving your relationship
You willingly put in the effort, take a few punches (not literally, that’s a violent relationship – get out of it ASAP), and go through all the tough times together.
You strive towards making it a healthier, happier and more fulfilling relationship because you like the way it lets you connect with your partner.
You stick around even when your partner vents out his/her frustration on you, you tackle arguments with patience and respect just so that you can get back to your happy relationship.
8. You stick to your promises
You never make false promises to someone you truly love because it isn’t a game, it is an extension of trust.
When you break a promise, you break your partner’s trust and end up hurting them.
Even if you can’t keep a promise, you would discuss that with your partner instead of leaving them hanging.
9. You are empathetic
When you are in a relationship for fun and games, you see things from your own perspective.
This changes when you get into a relationship with your true love. You begin to see things from their perspective too and then act upon it.
For instance, when you truly love someone, you would understand they vented out on you because they had a bad day at work.
Instead of fighting back and throwing a fit, you would support them and try to lighten their mood.
10. You’re satisfied only when they are
True love is all about give-and-take and you don’t enjoy things if your partner doesn’t. You feel disturbed if they do.
Even when you are feeling low, seeing your partner happy will bring a sense of appreciation to you.
You value them too much to see them unhappy. You go over leaps and bounds to make sure they are comfortable and satisfied.
11. You stay when the going gets tough
True love is sticking to your partner especially when they are hardest hit or going through something physically or mentally.
You stay put as they struggle to find themselves and piece back their life together. You don’t give up even when everyone else has.
12. You learn to look at the bigger picture
Complaining occasionally is fine but if you constantly complain and compare your partner with others, it’s anything but true love.
Sure, your partner might annoy you at times but you remember why you love them and put up with them.
13. You let them grow
Suffocating your partner is a big no-no.
Healthy relationships allow individuals to have their own space without hurting the feelings of another and being there for each other no matter what.
14. You are their biggest cheerleader
It isn’t true love if your partner isn’t your biggest cheerleader.
If your partner can’t be genuinely happy for you or your accomplishments and rewards, you are definitely with the wrong person.
15. You are loyal
True love means staying committed to one person. All those of you who can’t be loyal, please swipe right on Tinder instead of getting in and out of meaningless relationships.
You’ll save the other person from heartbreak and gain their respect by being honest about it.
Characteristics of True Love
Individuals often confuse true love with things like possessiveness or jealousy.
True love isn’t either of those. But these 15 things are.
So we bring you the REAL characteristics of love:
1. It means bidding goodbye to *unrealistic* expectations
Yes, we all want our partner to be more outgoing, and ambitious, and smarter. But you can’t have unrealistic expectations for your partner because no one can really be perfect.
Your outfit can be perfect but your partner can’t be. You must learn to love and respect your partner for who they really are.
2. You don’t play the blame game
While both of you can argue for three days straight and continue to blame each other, individuals who truly love each other would take responsibility, apologize and the other one will forgive them.
You stop taking things personally and let go of small issues to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner.
3. You let go of small things
We’re familiar with the saying “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, then it never was.” it applies to true love too.
Love is like a free bird, you don’t hold it tightly and nip its wings. Instead, you are willing to set them free if that’s what they really want.
4. True love has no room for jealousy
Sure, a little jealousy is cute. But our belief that our partner doesn’t love us because he/she isn’t crazy jealous is complete crap.
If you truly love someone, you believe in them and you know they will come back to you, only you.
5. Wants vs needs
You can only truly love someone when you wantthem and not just need them.
Wanting someone knows that you immensely love them but at the same time, they have complete freedom to leave.
6. Action vs feeling
When we fall in love, we feel escalated. Everything around us seems better and we feel as though we’re on “cloud 9”.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but this feeling is going to fade with time.
This doesn’t mean it isn’t true love, it just means that it’s not new anymore. Both of you are used to each other and are content that way.
However, when one of you feels the need to be loved, don’t disregard their feeling.
Show them your love and tell them you care when they are upset – don’t just assume that they know everything.
7. True love is unconditional
It does not have limits or boundaries. If you truly love someone, you will love them unconditionally.
8. Putting your partner’s need before your own
If you don’t put your partner’s needs before your own, they are bound to feel resentful. True love means valuing your partner and genuinely making an effort to keep them happy.
9. True love = attention
You don’t ignore someone you truly love. You want to be together with them and spend your time with them.
You don’t mind giving (and receiving) all the attention that is needed and showing love, and you definitely don’t see it as a chore.
10. True love understands and accepts differences
We’re all different… duh! Each and every individual on this planet has a different set of values, thoughts and a different outlook towards life.
True love doesn’t make their partner feel wrong about being different, rather it is embracing these differences with respect.
11. True love is all about feeling good
Not all relationships are about true love. If they don’t make you feel good, then it’s about time that you let go and search for your true love.
You can now love TRULY and EQUALLY
Last week, the Supreme Court scraped off section 377 and declared that homosexuality is no longer a crime in India.
This decision has come across as a relief to many and can be marked a rainbow moment in Indian history.
Signs of true love from a man and signs real love.
Editor’s favorite quotes on True Love:
These two quotes have been my favorite for a while because they had a profound impact on me. It changed my perspective on true love to a greater extent.
Remember, true love is all about feeling good, happy, and appreciated. Anything other than this is not true love.
Relationships would be so blissful only we loved our partners as much as we love ourselves!
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